What if we, as women, stopped allowing our truest selves to be diluted by the insidious expectations, conditioning and convention that bombard us from infancy, eroding our self-esteem and undermining our authenticity?
Tam is on a journey to find the way back to that authenticity, reclaiming Woman Undiluted one step at a time.

Fat to Beautiful in just 10 hours!

Today, ten people told me I am beautiful. They were not referring to my personality, but to my body. My 57-year-old, plus-size, battered, resilient, brilliant body. I am in Soweto, South Africa, where Bigger is Beautiful and Aged is Revered. Today I facilitated a workshop for 40 women living in the townships. I wore a [...]

By | 2018-02-12T23:36:17+00:00 February 12th, 2018|AccepTTranscend, Uncategorised, Woman Undiluted|

A Moment of Joy, A Lifetime of Happiness

For many people, Happiness is a holy grail; longed-for, searched for, but elusive. We invest huge amounts of time, energy and money in the search. We work to be able to buy what we believe we need. We strive to be what we believe we ought to be, sometimes losing sight of who we really [...]

By | 2018-02-12T23:40:46+00:00 November 12th, 2017|Positively Mental, Uncategorised, Woman Undiluted|

Becoming Vegetarian (then Vegan) – It’s Never Too Late!

Until my fifties, I was an enthusiastic meat-eater. I had always felt vaguely uncomfortable about this, aware as I was of the multiple evils of industrialised agricultural farming, and I tried to eat free-range chicken or game when I could. Beyond that conscience-appeasing concession, I did not allow myself to think too much about what [...]

By | 2017-11-01T08:59:49+00:00 October 1st, 2017|AccepTTranscend, Positively Mental, Woman Undiluted|

“Choose Life!” – The Eternal Gift of Not Committing Suicide

  Waking inexplicably at 3.30am and frustrated by continuing sleeplessness, I just logged on to twitter, where I found a post by a woman whose therapist suggested she write a letter to herself to read when she felt suicidal. I was catapulted to a different time, 28 years ago, when I was young and also [...]

By | 2017-11-04T10:43:59+00:00 September 22nd, 2017|AccepTTranscend, Positively Mental, Uncategorised, Woman Undiluted|

Undiluting Across Generations

One of the great joys of my life is in spending time with younger women - something which, as the mother of two daughters aged 32 and 22, I am privileged to enjoy a lot.  I love younger women's vibrancy, their perspectives on a world quite different from my own, their fresh enthusiasm and questioning [...]

By | 2018-02-26T00:31:47+00:00 September 20th, 2017|Woman Undiluted|

Chin-hair, jowls, migrating memory: Self-Compassion & the Ageing Process

Today I made a new discovery: My potential for a career as a jewellery model is spent. I have a saggy neck. And jowls. Fifty-seven years of gravity are taking their toll on yet another part of my body. I am currently creating an online shop; another “first” in a year of adventurous departures from [...]

By | 2017-09-21T22:55:13+00:00 September 1st, 2017|AccepTTranscend, Woman Undiluted|

Togetherness & Solitude: The Exquisite Balance

Many of the women I work with, in my workshops and one-to-one sessions, are unhappy regarding relationships. Perhaps their partnership lacks vitality, or they are single and despairing of ever being happily paired with a compassionate other. I can empathise with both these states which, amazingly, I can also now look back upon through the [...]

By | 2018-02-26T02:06:00+00:00 August 24th, 2017|AccepTTranscend, Positively Mental, Woman Undiluted|

The People We Were Born to Be

The AccepTTranscend Model for Transformation explores, in part, the power of the stories we tell ourselves, and others, about our lives. We tend to think we cannot change the past. But we can change the way it has affected us, and affects us still. We can rewrite our story with ourselves as hero. We can [...]

By | 2017-09-26T11:45:28+00:00 August 23rd, 2017|AccepTTranscend, Woman Undiluted|

The Empty Nest is a Fluid Thing

It is that time of year that young people prepare to leave for college and university. Exciting, for them and their parents, but sometimes devastating too for the erstwhile caregivers left behind. I used to wonder, when my friends lamented the emptying of their nests, why they made such a big deal of it. As [...]

By | 2017-08-27T16:50:21+00:00 August 17th, 2017|AccepTTranscend, Woman Undiluted|

Feathers, Sticks, Guano and Wisdom: The Debris of the Empty Nest

I’m trying to work out how to effectively launch a new Twitter account. At 57, IT-active but still cautiously emerging from a tunnel of innate technophobia, this is a challenge for me. I want to reach out to other Older Women like myself. Over 50, reluctant to accept what “over 50” is supposed to mean. [...]

By | 2017-08-27T19:03:07+00:00 August 16th, 2017|Woman Undiluted|