About Tam Martin

I am 57, mother of three adult children, a transpersonal therapist, writer and group facilitator living in South West England. I have had my share of (ultimately empowering) challenges, including neurodiversity and mental health crises, and am currently learning to embrace the dubious title “Older Woman”- and make it wonderful!

The People We Were Born to Be

The AccepTTranscend Model for Transformation explores, in part, the power of the stories we tell ourselves, and others, about our lives. We tend to think we cannot change the past. But we can change the way it has affected us, and affects us still. We can rewrite our story with ourselves as hero. We can [...]

By | 2017-09-26T11:45:28+00:00 August 23rd, 2017|AccepTTranscend, Woman Undiluted|

The Empty Nest is a Fluid Thing

It is that time of year that young people prepare to leave for college and university. Exciting, for them and their parents, but sometimes devastating too for the erstwhile caregivers left behind. I used to wonder, when my friends lamented the emptying of their nests, why they made such a big deal of it. As [...]

By | 2017-08-27T16:50:21+00:00 August 17th, 2017|AccepTTranscend, Woman Undiluted|

Feathers, Sticks, Guano and Wisdom: The Debris of the Empty Nest

I’m trying to work out how to effectively launch a new Twitter account. At 57, IT-active but still cautiously emerging from a tunnel of innate technophobia, this is a challenge for me. I want to reach out to other Older Women like myself. Over 50, reluctant to accept what “over 50” is supposed to mean. [...]

By | 2017-08-27T19:03:07+00:00 August 16th, 2017|Woman Undiluted|

Compassion Antennae can Change the World!

In a previous post I wrote about the power of gratitude to change our every-day world-view. How when we consciously seek things to be grateful for, we start to find them everywhere. The same is true of compassion, and it is a wonderful thing to bring into the forefront of our consciousness. Once my clients [...]

By | 2017-08-27T17:59:55+00:00 August 8th, 2017|AccepTTranscend, Positively Mental, Woman Undiluted|

Psychological Crisis: Dismantling the Walls

The day before the Berlin Wall came down, I lost my mind. It was the eighth of November 1989; a Thursday. Much later, my best friend Alison noted “two walls came down at once”. Mental illness affects at least one quarter of the population of the Western World. For those who have not suffered it, [...]

By | 2018-01-22T22:26:04+00:00 July 25th, 2017|AccepTTranscend, Positively Mental, Woman Undiluted|

FF is for Ffeminist – Breasts, Bras and the Older Woman

I’ve got big breasts. I have had since, at the age of 11, the startling bumps that had recently appeared on my little-girl chest suddenly inflated into something with a definite cleavage. Mortified with shame, I grew my hair longer so that if I bent forward it would form a curtain to hide the cursed [...]

By | 2017-11-04T10:14:21+00:00 June 21st, 2017|Woman Undiluted|

Rehoming Hope

Perhaps you’ve noticed we are living in challenging times. Times in which hope, while never needed more, can sometimes seem inadequate for the crises we are facing. I have been facilitating workshops that explore and identify hope for many years, and repeatedly witnessed its power to guide people through the darkest times. An acquaintance recently [...]

By | 2017-08-27T19:01:14+00:00 June 18th, 2017|AccepTTranscend, Positively Mental, Woman Undiluted|

Being Woman Undiluted

Throughout the ages, women have been required to be, and not to be, many things. As a little girl I was required to be quiet, demure, pretty, delicate, polite, obedient, sweet, helpful and subservient to boys. I was required not to be boisterous, loud, demanding, “too brave”, muddy, fascinated, curious, wild, angry or self-sufficient. I [...]

By | 2017-10-20T00:14:07+00:00 April 17th, 2017|Woman Undiluted|